Posted by Dr. Holly Latty-Mann on August 21st, 2012 No Comments
Drawing upon a submission to The Leadership Trust® LinkedIn Group from Michelle Poche Flaherty (Founder & President, City on a Hill Consulting, Inc.), I find fascinating this recent HBR article by Zenger and Folkman on “Are You Sure You’re Not a Bad Boss?”. Sometimes when I present to audiences interested in leadership topics, I ask them if they’ve ever known a leader who ____________. Regardless of the negative behavior I throw out there, the hands are certain to shoot up, but when I ask if anyone out there might do this stuff, there is inevitably some nervous laughter. It’s so easy to see in others what we may miss in ourselves. I’m collecting observations from your own experiences regarding damaging SUBTLE behaviors. Here’s the link to stimulate your thoughts: http://blogs.hbr.org/cs/2012/08/are_you_sure_youre_not_a_bad_b.html
Posted by Dr. Holly Latty-Mann on August 14th, 2012 No Comments
Unbelievable! I just replenished a bottle of a nectar concoction for my backyard hummingbirds. Five can easily feed from this bottle and could feed nonstop for an indefinite period of time (thanks to my watchful eye to provide such abundance). Despite all this, the aggression I witness among these birds eliminates any from enjoying this non-stop fountain of fulfillment. Why this self-defeating ritual that usurps their limited energy to maintain up to 90 flaps of their wings PER SECOND! Because like some self-defeating humans, they see their world from the perspective of scarcity. Isn’t it amazing this “law of polarities” that ensures it is in giving that we receive! That’s effective leadership. It’s also effective love-ship. When we take care of others, we vicariously take care of ourselves.
Posted by Dr. Holly Latty-Mann on August 3rd, 2012 No Comments
The other day I watched “Michael Phelps equal the record for medals won by an Olympic athlete when he claimed silver in the final of the 200m butterfly as Chad le Clos of South Africa took victory with the final stroke.” But what I observed next was perhaps a stunned Phelps seemingly snub the friendly attempt of the gold medalist who was reaching out to acknowledge Phelps with a pat on the back. Le Clos’ gracious gesture did not even earn him eye contact. Not even a murmured, “Congrats.” Nada. So maybe Phelps was stunned and oblivious. All the same, this is a perfect example of how mindfulness would have offered Phelps a chance to appear gracious in his loss to Chad le Clos. By contrast, Le Clos’ comments later to the press showed leadership at its best: “Michael’s my hero, and I didn’t expect to win.”
[It should be noted that much later Phelps was seen engaging Le Clos in congratulatory fashion. Timing is such a critical piece in how people perceive leadership dynamics.]