You were born with a personality label, whether you know this or not. Newborn babies get classified according to a temperament or disposition: difficult, warm, and slow-to-warm. In a way you could say this is the earliest sign of the nature of one’s social relationships later in life.
For those receiving a less-than-favorable label, there is good news. The label itself need not be a blueprint, because there is the “nurture” aspect that can moderate the “nature” aspect of one’s personality. As such, some “difficult” babies can warm up, even start “trusting” those sudden loud noises as benign – yes, those sounds that previously caused an explosion of ear-piercing sounds.
Unfortunately many young parents may not have the patience or maturity to give a calming response to their baby’s trying, annoying behaviors. In short, they can inadvertently cause their baby’s “difficult” symptoms to exacerbate over time. Fortunately, there are many social stops on this journey of life, and it can be a teacher, coach, or Great Aunt Bertha who offers an “emotionally corrective experience” to this not-so-easy personality. Discovering trust-worthiness through one key person can allow one to identify and grow other trustworthy relationships.
But what about those who didn’t have a Great Aunt Bertha in their life to foster healthy relationships built on trust? Enter your multi-billion dollar industry of coaches, psychologists, and leadership gurus. Once you find a good “fit,” you can discover insights allowing you to see angles of yourself and others of which you had been previously unaware. This is not an IQ thing, so not to worry. The point is that you can discover patterns that allow you to have subtle alarm bells go off when you are about to engage in a way that compromises trust vs building it. Learn more at leadershiptrust.org.